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Session One: Ways We Mismanage Anger

This session explores the many ways that anger is mismanaged in our lives that hinder intimacy in marriage.

Session Two: Sources Of Anger

This session looks at the sources of anger as coming from myths of manhood, pride, selfishness, hurts from our past, frustrations in the present and fears of the future. We also explore the Fear Dance and take the Fear Dance Inventory developed by Dr. Gary Smalley

Session Three: Conflict Management Styles and The Negative Spin Cycle

This session presents styles in which we all seek to manage conflict in our marriage. In addition to this we learn about the Negative Spin Cycle as developed by Dr. Sharon May in her groundbreaking book How to Argue So Your Spouse Will Listen, and how this separates us when we argue or fight.

Session Four: Your Negative Spin Cycle and Rules of a Fair Fight

Here couples will diagram how they negatively spin in their own cycle and what to do about not staying locked into this harmful pattern. In addition to this we will learn there rules to follow if you want to fight fairly in your marriage.

Session Five: Ineffective Ways We Argue and Six Principles for Arguing so Your Spouse Will Listen

Taken from the book How to Argue So Your Spouse Will Listen by Dr. Sharon May, we will learn the important principles to follow when in conflict so your spouse will not get defensive and the argument escalate or degenerate into a standoff.

Session Six: How to Win Every Argument You Have With Your Spouse

This session gives couples the seven steps to a win-win for when they disagree and how to come to a decision they both can feel good about. We will also look at the PREP seminar’s method of conflict resolution of problem solving by following specific ground rules.